well... now I think we have some "communication progress"...
going from a fuse to a relay is quite a jump along with a number so that this can be traced in reference material.
So based on your recent description, you know that your fuel pump works from the fuse box out... which is what I think you were saying from the start... just my lack of interpretation of the earlier text.... sorry.
I am still having trouble with
"when I attach yellow to Gray it pulls a prime on the fuel pump and then kicks off this is with the key on so the blown fuse was actually a blown relay ,relay 41 but it wasn't blown that's why I stated it did not work" ??? you jump the contact marked yellow to the contact marked gray and the pump runs.... this is without the relay in place / connected and none of the other contacts (red and white) connected, right?
Going back to your previously descriptions, can you please indicate your pin number to color to voltage reading (no relay in place), with key off, and again with key on.... again, just ensure we are "seeing" the same thing that you are "seeing" cause our "internet eyes" may not be connected just yet...
One other thing... what engine is in your vehicle?