What would you have done? Shanesha Taylor, our story.

[big ed]

I'm sure most of you have seen or heard of the many news, blogs and articles about her, well she's my oldest daughter.

her story as far as I know,
she leaves her two kids in a hot car, to go to a job interview. someone see's the kids crying in the car and call's the police, 45 minutes later she comes back and get's arrested. she tells the police, she is sometimes homeless and doing her best to take care of her kids. they take her kids and she's locked up, facing many charges. a woman in jersey hears the story, start's a fundraiser for her legal fee and court cost. she raises $77,000 for her.

where was her mom? who also live in Arizona. as far as I know.
where was her mom's many family members?

what would you have done here, a bad choice but what do you do? don't go? take them with you? leave them? where?

her face book page https://www.facebook.com/shanesha.mullinstaylor?fref=ts
she is a loving mother, who from the many picture's of her son and daughter expresses her love for them.


my story
My high school girl friend get pregnant, I'm not ready, I'm young, wild and immature. I spend my day's getting high and drinking. and many other thing's I'm not proud of. thank god he never sent my badass to jail for some of the stupid things I did. I didn't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of. I wasn't there for her, all my fault. as she got older, we tried to make it work but to me the hurt was always there on her part, so it never worked. now 20 years or so years since I've seen her, this....OMG

so you'll fall under one of two choices, she neglected her children, put them in danger. let the law handle it. or she was trying to do something not getting on aid, not out doing something like going to a concert like some other woman done.

so here's the thing please pray for her and her kids, that this doesn't go to her kids being taken away and if you feel stronger that this was a bad situation that went from bad to very bad. there a petition you could sign that may or may not help get her charges dropped.

all they need is your name, address and email address, thanks for reading our story.

https://www.change.org/petitions/bi...e-child-abuse-charges-against-shanesha-taylor

 

[Playsinsnow]

Reschedule. It's a hard world for working moms. Harder if you're single.


Hoping she can pull and get through this. The children's ages will be a determining factor. Under 4 y.o.? More than 1? These are hard charges nowadays in the public eye.

That's child endangerment. Had I done this at work, (I worked with human services) I'd be in a heap of trouble. And they're adolescents.


You're family is in our prayers. I'm sorry BigEd

 

[big ed]

no problem bro, I understand and know more will agree with you. it is what it is.

I just feel her children being taken away and criminal charges are not the answer but do understand your view also.

 

[Playsinsnow]

If she has others in her life that can go and vouch for her character when this needs to be addressed she stands a much better chance retaining them. Maybe social services will help.

The last thing she should do is wait. Be proactive and show that she is a citizen of outstanding character who made a mistake. Get all of her neighbors etc, as many as possible, to stand with her.


I have only seen the most extreme cases. Not knowing all the details, she should maintain her parental rights and maybe have a court ordered social worker. Having others vouch for character will or should reduce penalties.

 

[Hypnotoad]

It's a tough situation, but you can't leave kids in a car unattended. Children have been found dead in similar situations, you also leave your kids open to kidnapping. What if they put the car in gear, neutral, or let the parking brake off?

A job isn't worth what could possibly happen to your kids. Don't get me wrong, I feel for your daughter. That's a responsibility that comes with being a parent weather you wanted to be one or not. Choices have consequences.

I hope everything works out for her, but whatever happens, I hope she learns a lesson. My main concern is for those kids. My kids are my life, and I'd do anything for them, including missing a job interview.

 

[blazinlow89]

It is hard for anyone to say what they would do unless they had been placed in a similar circumstance. While I would not agree with leaving children unattended in a vehicle, she had no other choice. I applaud her for trying to make her life better, far too many people do not try these days. However she took the risk, and is now in this predicament.

I will say I hope for the best for her and her children as she did not do it in a malicious manner (if you only knew half the stories from around this area). I will sign the petition, I honestly do not know how some single parents do it, and I am still amazed to this day as to how my mother kept us fed and a roof over our heads.

If you keep kicking someone when they are down, how in the hell can they get back up.

 

[HARDTRAILZ]

I dont even know. Its a cruel and crazy world out there.

I will send some prayers and have the wife do the same so that everyone involved has the most positive outcome possible!

 

[big ed]

I thank everyone for they're thoughts both for and against but find it most confusing at everyone view. from most things I've read most say the same thing

My kids are my life, and I'd do anything for them

you wake up, in your car. no food, no where to go. you get a call be at in interview in an hour. no one you try can help you babysit. here is the first good news you've heard in months, the first time you see a way to get out of this nightmare. you don't go? you don't do ANYTHING you can for them?..

not saying at all she was right but walk in her shoes.


petition with 11,373 supporters 3,627 NEEDED

 

[Hypnotoad]

I thank everyone for they're thoughts both for and against but find it most confusing at everyone view. from most things I've read most say the same thing





you wake up, in your car. no food, no where to go. you get a call be at in interview in an hour. no one you try can help you babysit. here is the first good news you've heard in months, the first time you see a way to get out of this nightmare. you don't go? you don't do ANYTHING you can?..

not saying at all she was right but walk in her shoes.

It's a decision I hope I'm never faced with. I like to think I wouldn't. As an outsider looking in, it's easier to make the right decision.

The thing that's different about your daughter's situation is that she was trying to do something good. So often, you hear about kids being left in cars for the stupidest reasons. I just read one last month about a woman that left her kids in a casino parking ramp for 8 hours! Or the mom who left her kid in the car all day while she went drinking. That little girl died.

I don't blame her for what happened, I think she just made a poor choice. Good people make poor decisions too. I do hope your daughter gets leniency and pray she gets the help she needs to support your grandchildren.

 

[blazinlow89]

I just read one last month about a woman that left her kids in a casino parking ramp for 8 hours!

That is one of the local ones I was referring to. Also had one level her small children in the car for over 2 hours at a local mall while she got her makeup done. This was when the high temps were barely 25. Her excuse was thay she lost her wallet and was only gone for 10 minutes. Her wallet was found in her purse, and surveillance footage was what showed what she was really doing and for how long. There is no excuse in instances like that.

Ed, it takes a strong a person to admit and accept to what you have in this thread. We all make mistakes as humans, and I commend you for that. I understand what you say about your daughter and the hurt always being there, my story is a bit different. However it is harder to forgive as an adult.

 

[Black_tb]

i did signed the petition and also shared it on my Facebook wall i couldn't imagine being away from my child and i would do anything for her

 

[big ed]

When I first heard about this and saw the news footage with the picture of her crying, I was at work. on the train with a co worker I cried, I saw her pain, felt her pain from the picture, once again I wasn't there. what to do now, how do I try to be apart of her life with this media storm surrounding her, her head so clouded with all that's going on. I didn't know where or how to contact her for so long, what do I say to make her see I do care, that I too would do anything for my child.

I also have to face, it may be too late. my window to be apart of her life, may have closed.

 

[High Voltage]

Prayers for you and your daughter Ed. I hope your window hasn't closed and she gets to see the great caring person you are!

 

[Chickenhawk]

Difficult decision but sadly it reflects not just on her ability to raise children but also her work ethic.

Like any other job interview, she should have changed a negative into a positive.

For example:

"Before we get started, I just have one favour to ask of you. My children are outside in a hot car and I care for them very deeply. I know it's an imposition but I would like to bring them in here where it is safe. As much as I would really LOVE to have this job, I am also a highly responsible person and would never do anything that would harm my children.

"If you can do this for me, I can promise you that I will be as responsible about working for you as I am about raising my children. From what I have heard about this company, you seem to care for your employees and you are looking for stable, responsible people. I can assure you I am that person. I hope I have just proven that to you in a very meaningful way."

If raised that way, no person on earth could turn her down. (And if they did, she does not want to work there anyway!)

 

[big ed]

Great post chickenhawk, thank you..

 

[Playsinsnow]

Reminds me of the story, The Pursuit of Happyness.



She WILL get through this. She needs to stay positive. The window is never closed to positive influences. Be there on any level you can. Never too late.

 

[big ed]

thanks you all. I don't know where any of this is gonna go but I do plan on trying to show her I'm here for her and her children.

only 3538 more needed.

 

[Hypnotoad]

Sometimes you gotta hit rock bottom before things get better.